The Focus On You

Self-Care Is A Lifestyle

Tag: work (page 2 of 2)

3 Signs That Your Routine Is Sabotaging Your Life

Have you ever felt uncomfortable switching up your daily routine?

When I work with clients living with mental illness, setting up a realistic and healthy routine is important. Many parents live by routines to help teach their kids responsibility. Personally, I live and die by the clock. My client sessions are 50 mins long and I even schedule my blog work by the hour.

Productivity experts would vouch for setting up a routine, but let’s look at these routine errors that could be silently sabotaging your life.

Your Routine Doesn’t Include Self-Care

The common complaint I hear as a self-care blogger is, “I don’t have time for self-care.” You don’t have time because you don’t make time. If you automatically shut it down, you have assigned a negative label to it. Did you know that self-care consists of that paid hour lunch you receive? Self-care can occur on your way to work, while you’re in the shower and while you’re doing the normal things you already dread doing. One of my Pinterest boards includes a shower meditation, where you can envision washing off whatever you need to release for that day. On weekends I play music in the shower to signify a shift from the sleepy Monday-Friday showers. If your routine involves eating lunch at your desk, I would suggest taking your lunch elsewhere. You may surprisingly feel refreshed and ready to conquer the 2nd half of your day!

Your Routine Involves Too Much Multi-Tasking

I sometimes amaze myself at how much housework I can tackle all at once. Does it leave me exhausted at the end? Absolutely! I’m not suggesting taking away the multi-tasking but try to place a limit on it. When I feel overwhelmed between errands, housework and my blog schedule I use the Pomodoro technique. This is also a good tip for anyone with chronic pain. I break my tasks into hourly segments. I sit and blog for one hour. Then I take a break by completing housework for 30 min or 1 hour (depending on how my chronic pain is acting). I dread looking at an action list that involves a mix of all 3 responsibilities. When I break these tasks into hour or 30 min. segments, the tasks feel more realistic. Plus, this gives me a break from sitting or cleaning too long. These active breaks also help my creativity and allow me to put my work to sleep for a minute. Is anyone else a fan of the Pomodoro technique?

Your Routine Doesn’t Include The Important People In Your Life

How often do you get to text or chat with your best friends?

When was the last time you visited with family members or friends who are out of town? If our weekly schedules don’t include time for connections, what are we working so hard for? Click To Tweet Do we feel bad on the holidays because we don’t have the money to visit family members? Could we start saving money or vacation time at work for the holiday we really want? Weekly (and sometimes daily) group texts with my best friends in California are a life saver for me. We even have a Snapchat group list so we can send life updates or encouraging messages to each other.

(Recommended reading: Are You A Bad Friend?)

Personal connections can get lost in our daily hustle. Relationships take work. Our supportive people in our life can ground us, distract us from our daily struggles and remind us of our importance in their lives. Spending time with friends or loved ones (without drama or codependency) can help reduce burnout as well. If work/school/career is burning you out, you need that distraction, encouragement, laughter and connection with others.

Our lives can easily get controlled by the necessity to work, make more money and do that next thing. Auto-pilot is dangerous. Maybe your daughter is tired of playing that same sport every year. Who says you have to run that weekend program or coach that team again? If you keep signing up for the same responsibility with a tinge of resentment, that’s telling you something.

Spending quality time with quality people and adding self-care can only bring necessary benefits to your life. They shouldn’t be withdrawing from your valuable time but depositing instead.

Put the control back into your life, replace dreadful activities with elements of self-care and bring back that sense of belonging!

How has your routine sabotaged your life?

Why I Wouldn’t Bring My Child To Work: Therapist Chronicles


This Thursday is National Bring Your Child To Work Day. If I had a child, I’m not sure I would bring them to the office, but that’s due to the nature of my work. Let me explain a little further about what I do.


As an addictions/mental health therapist there is a level of confidentiality AND professionalism needed in this line of work. Not to mention, safety concerns as well. Many therapists don’t even place pictures of their children or family in their office. Some clients can become distracted by seeing the therapist’s life and try to deflect attention away from their problems. Some therapists may even do this as a safety precaution so their children’s or spouse’s faces are not recognizable. Personally I don’t place family pictures in my office either because they are a big distraction.


My current office setting is pretty relaxed and functions for mostly outpatient therapy, as well as other services for our clients (advocacy, case management). Outpatient therapy consists of 50 minute individual sessions with an assigned therapist.


Here is a brief rundown of what a typical day looks like for myself:


  • Check the calendar to see what clients are scheduled for the day. I usually do this the night before or in the morning before work. Having a session immediately after arriving at work requires a little more preparation (and maybe coffee)
  • Clients are usually scheduled on the hour and each session is 50 minutes long. If clients are scheduled back to back I have a 10 minute window to return calls/check voicemails/consult with clinical director, if necessary.
  • Therapy sessions are not just “talk” therapy. Sometimes I use worksheets to educate the client on certain topics or I use a wipe board to help them visually map out what they are learning. Clients may bring in their journal assignments and we process what they have been writing. Or I may ask them to list stressors, recent successes, what they are grateful for or what they have been avoiding. Mind you, this is a condensed description of therapeutic techniques!
  • If there is an hour break between clients I am able to return calls, hopefully process last hour’s session, complete a case note for that client (which only takes about 15 minutes), file the note and prepare for the next client.
  • If a client no-shows or cancels I may have to email or fax a note to their caseworker, if they are mandated by the court or state to attend treatment. Another case note will need to be completed for no-shows/cancellations as well.
  • If I am dealing with a client with specific concerns (returning PTSD symptoms, new mental health diagnosis, new psychotropic medication, retraumatization, etc) I will need to find time to research resources, new treatment modalities and/or consult with other therapists.




This doesn’t seem like too much fun for a child!!

And all of this takes place before I start blogging for the day!! Whew! 

Are there reasons you wouldn’t take your child to work? What does your child/family need to know about your daily routine?




Newer posts

© 2018 The Focus On You

Theme by Anders NorenUp ↑

%d bloggers like this: