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How Blogging Is Turning Me Into An Introvert

I have always been a social butterfly.

In my 20’s I loved college parties, dancing all night and being with large groups of people. Maybe it was the closeness with my sorority sisters. Living in close quarters throughout college doesn’t give you much alone time but I didn’t mind.

After I moved to a new city (Las Vegas) and away from most of my friends I focused on my career as a therapist. Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed the Las Vegas nightlife while I was still young and single.  I even worked 2 jobs at an average of 50 hours a week and still travelled and socialized.

Move forward to 2016 and I’m married, working part-time as a mental health therapist and blogger. Blogging has really turned me inward in order to remain creative. Although my husband and I travel often and enjoy spending time with friends and family on weekends, I really crave my quiet time to work on the blog.

And I hate this.

In one sense it’s beneficial because I’m not afraid to work, create, write and learn. Human contact is also important as a busy entrepeneur.  Retreating to my shell too often isn’t healthy either (Did I mention I’m a Cancer too).

It’s as if “Focus On Me” has gone into overdrive. All this quiet time isn’t necessarily self-care time. I take my breaks and know my limits. I say “yes” to fun activities that I know will suit me and excite me.

Maybe this business is lonelier than I expected. Click To Tweet Thankfully Twitter chats and my Facebook groups provide the laughter, healthy feedback and flow of information necessary for growth.

In reality, therapy is also a lonely gig. You hear more heartbreak than success and can really only process it with your supervisor. You cannot talk in depth at home about client struggles or stories and basically have to keep work conversation at a surface level. In between sessions it can be hard to bounce ideas off colleagues because they’re swamped as well. This is one of the reasons I won’t enter private practice. My God-given extrovert personality wouldn’t survive.

Yet now I’m diving into the introvert pool.

I feel productive in this silence but still want to wade into your bangin pool party from time to time.

Do any other business friends or therapists sympathize???



Part 1: Self-Talk Your Way To Physical And Mental Wellness

Does your self-talk sound critical and hopeless?

Did you know that your inner critic, or inner heckler, can be silenced?? Click To Tweet

Any successful person will tell you that the conversation that takes place in their head is key. It makes or breaks successful athletes. Motivating self-talk helps ease a person’s nerves before talking to the boss or making an important speech. This is why coaches and trainers are vital because they train us to change our thought patterns.

July marks an important mid-year point. Many people are re-assessing their goals, finances and LIFE in general.  If you read last week’s post, maybe you reassessed what’s truly valuable in your life. When I’m working with clients in substance abuse recovery or mental health treatment, we examine what that critic sounds like and challenge it to SHUT UP!

In this 1st part of the self-talk series I will provide you with 10 essential mantras or self-talk gems to keep you motivated as you work towards self-improvement.

Physical Wellness Mantras:

  1. I choose to feed my body with goodness.
  2. I feel energetic.
  3. My body deserves to be treated with special attention.
  4. I am confident with my physical abilities.
  5. I always consider how stress affects my energy levels.
  6. Each step I take brings me closer to optimal health.
  7. I am inhaling energy and exhaling toxins.
  8. Oxygen enters my body to feed me the energy of life.
  9. I am strong.
  10. I am in charge of my physical wellness.

Commit to placing these sentences where you will see them daily!

For instance, a phone screen saver, your daily planner, a Post-It note on your desk or a note on your fridge (especially if you’re focused on nutrition).

Where will you place your mantra??

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