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3 Signs That Your Routine Is Sabotaging Your Life

Have you ever felt uncomfortable switching up your daily routine?

When I work with clients living with mental illness, setting up a realistic and healthy routine is important. Many parents live by routines to help teach their kids responsibility. Personally, I live and die by the clock. My client sessions are 50 mins long and I even schedule my blog work by the hour.

Productivity experts would vouch for setting up a routine, but let’s look at these routine errors that could be silently sabotaging your life.

Your Routine Doesn’t Include Self-Care

The common complaint I hear as a self-care blogger is, “I don’t have time for self-care.” You don’t have time because you don’t make time. If you automatically shut it down, you have assigned a negative label to it. Did you know that self-care consists of that paid hour lunch you receive? Self-care can occur on your way to work, while you’re in the shower and while you’re doing the normal things you already dread doing. One of my Pinterest boards includes a shower meditation, where you can envision washing off whatever you need to release for that day. On weekends I play music in the shower to signify a shift from the sleepy Monday-Friday showers. If your routine involves eating lunch at your desk, I would suggest taking your lunch elsewhere. You may surprisingly feel refreshed and ready to conquer the 2nd half of your day!

Your Routine Involves Too Much Multi-Tasking

I sometimes amaze myself at how much housework I can tackle all at once. Does it leave me exhausted at the end? Absolutely! I’m not suggesting taking away the multi-tasking but try to place a limit on it. When I feel overwhelmed between errands, housework and my blog schedule I use the Pomodoro technique. This is also a good tip for anyone with chronic pain. I break my tasks into hourly segments. I sit and blog for one hour. Then I take a break by completing housework for 30 min or 1 hour (depending on how my chronic pain is acting). I dread looking at an action list that involves a mix of all 3 responsibilities. When I break these tasks into hour or 30 min. segments, the tasks feel more realistic. Plus, this gives me a break from sitting or cleaning too long. These active breaks also help my creativity and allow me to put my work to sleep for a minute. Is anyone else a fan of the Pomodoro technique?

Your Routine Doesn’t Include The Important People In Your Life

How often do you get to text or chat with your best friends?

When was the last time you visited with family members or friends who are out of town? If our weekly schedules don’t include time for connections, what are we working so hard for? Click To Tweet Do we feel bad on the holidays because we don’t have the money to visit family members? Could we start saving money or vacation time at work for the holiday we really want? Weekly (and sometimes daily) group texts with my best friends in California are a life saver for me. We even have a Snapchat group list so we can send life updates or encouraging messages to each other.

(Recommended reading: Are You A Bad Friend?)

Personal connections can get lost in our daily hustle. Relationships take work. Our supportive people in our life can ground us, distract us from our daily struggles and remind us of our importance in their lives. Spending time with friends or loved ones (without drama or codependency) can help reduce burnout as well. If work/school/career is burning you out, you need that distraction, encouragement, laughter and connection with others.

Our lives can easily get controlled by the necessity to work, make more money and do that next thing. Auto-pilot is dangerous. Maybe your daughter is tired of playing that same sport every year. Who says you have to run that weekend program or coach that team again? If you keep signing up for the same responsibility with a tinge of resentment, that’s telling you something.

Spending quality time with quality people and adding self-care can only bring necessary benefits to your life. They shouldn’t be withdrawing from your valuable time but depositing instead.

Put the control back into your life, replace dreadful activities with elements of self-care and bring back that sense of belonging!

How has your routine sabotaged your life?

Part 2: Productivity Hacks from Successful Entrepeneurs


In last week’s post I featured interviews of two successful entrepeneurs who shared their must-have tips for staying productive in their businesses.

In this 2-part series I am focusing on productivity hacks of successful entrepeneurs. I work with clients in my day job who struggle with trauma, mental health issues and difficulty dealing with stress. Many of them also struggle with lack of motivation, even when their mental health is stabilized.

Regardless of whether you are a budding entrepreneur or you struggle with daily tasks, these productivity hacks are pretty easy to add to your agenda!


In case you missed last week’s post, here are the interview questions:

  1. Can you give us a glimpse into what keeps you busy throughout your day?
  2. What are your favorite productivity hacks? Is there a hack you couldn’t live without?
  3. What is your favorite way to unwind?



The first interview is from Erin, who is a 30-something working mom of an energetic 8-year-old daughter. She works 50+ hours a week in a director position, while working on her doctorate with the love and support of her husband.

According to Erin, her days vary. “Some days are spent running a 50 bed crisis triage center that provides intervention and stabilization services to those suffering from substance use disorders and acute mental illness. Other days are spent in the community, representing my agency at city council meetings, grant presentations, board meetings, etc.”

Writing a daily and weekly to-do list is a key essential in maintaining focus and organization for this busy director. She prioritizes her tasks and goes from there. “I try really hard to only check my emails 3-4 times throughout the day. If I checked it more often then I would be answering emails all day long.”

Another hack she uses is the one-touch method; “I only touch a paper or task one time. I either complete it, file it, delegate it, or trash it. If it’s a document that needs additional follow-up then I set a time frame on when that follow up will be completed.”

Erin also relies heavily on her Outlook calendar and task list. The task lists allow her to assign a task to an employee and delegate it; but it also serves as a consistent reminder of what she needs to get done.

“The hack that I absolutely cannot live without is my white board in my office. I use it everyday to jot notes, goals, map out strategic plans, draw funny faces, etc. It helps keep my ideas fresh and present in my face so I continue to think about the future and the growth I want to see for myself, my staff, and my agency.” Erin also says that coffee and laughter are essential!!

Erin says she  plays as hard as she works but she doesn’t mean partying and staying out late. To quote her correctly, “Hell I’m too old for that!”

Erin plays hard when it comes to planning family adventures and vacations. She plays volleyball and softball every week, tries a new baking recipe on Sundays and barbecues with friends and family.

“I unwind by connecting with the people most important and precious in my life and celebrating those relationships. Sometimes that celebration is simply watching my daughter and nephew play Star Wars on the Kinect, like they are Hans Solo and Princess Leia. And sometimes that celebration is going off-roading in our new Razor. No matter what I’m doing I work really hard at staying present in the moment, whatever that moment may be.”


Our second entrepreneur is Vincenzo Landino, the founder and CEO of Landino Marketing, LLC, and hosts #MCEOtalk, a LIVE event and twitter chat.

Landino Marketing, LLC is a social media and content marketing consultancy specializing in brand correspondence and live-streaming video.

Vincenzo is proud to work with such brands as Applebee’s, Casual Friday’s, SocialFresh, BroadSuite Media Group, Social Media Day San Diego, MillennialCEO and Zoomph as an influencer, podcaster, engagement specialist, show host and blogger.

Vincenzo Landino is the founder of HUBCAP Wallingford, a collaborative workspace and small business incubator in the heart of Connecticut.


What keeps Vincenzo busy daily?

 His 2-year-old miniature pinscher and his 7 clients which range from hospitality industry to food/beverage and even professional services! Judging from his bio, you can see what keeps him busy!!
According to Vincenzo, “I get up pretty early every day which allows me to get work done before the majority of activity starts flowing in. I try to send emails, respond to requests and catch up on news in the morning before the day gets too hectic. Dealing with clients on the West coast is nice because I have until 11:00am before I begin business with them.”

Vincenzo loves coffee, but it’s become more or less of a habit, rather than access to superpowers! He recently began exercising in the morning as well, which he noticed has helped his creativity!

His favorite ways to unwind are playing with his pup, Khaleesi, watching movies, cooking or golfing.

The common thread I noticed in these 4 amazing entrepeneurs is their ability to keep it simple:

  • coffee, notepads, iPhone, Outlook calendars, white boards, daily lists, one-touch method, waking up early, prioritizing, exercise.

Their responsibilities are FAR from simple and I truly admire their tenacity and drive.

Let me know how you will take these hacks and incorporate them into your plan for success! 

Special thank you to Kelly, Kathy, Erin and Vincenzo for agreeing to be featured in this post! 

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