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The Connection Between Minority Mental Health And Belonging

As a Mexican-American, I naturally gravitate towards wellness issues that focus on people of color. Inclusivity is becoming more than just a buzzword and honestly, it’s nice to finally be invited to the party.

In lieu of spouting off statistics about the effects of depression and anxiety on people of color, I want to explore a problem with mental health that goes unnoticed.

Belonging.

Being seen.

Although there are layers of barriers that people of color face in relation to mental illness (inadequate healthcare coverage, citizenship, poverty, taboo subject in your home), having a feeling of being unwanted or unseen can be damaging to one’s core.

You see belonging relates to fairness.

Fairness is what our kids gripe about in their classrooms. Fairness is missing in our board rooms, where the majority of upper management are Caucasian males. Abused women and mothers want fairness in courtrooms for restraining orders and custody agreements. (Don’t ask me how many times I have seen the court give the kids to an abusive father because he earns more money).

When you’re treated unfairly and go “unseen” you develop a sense that you don’t belong. For minorities, every incidence of being passed over for a job, harassed by cops, having nasty glares from sales associates or pre-judgments about your intelligence builds layers of “I don’t belong” messages.

Imagine adding on years of these messages with a newly diagnosed mental illness.

For anyone with mental illness you may wonder, who will believe me? Who will dismiss your illness and claim you have to “suck it up?” How do you talk about anxiety and depression with elder family members who survived a dangerous migration, escaping a war torn country or extreme poverty?

Even when I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia I wondered how I would be judged? How can I complain about being tired when I have friends who are running non-stop with kids, career, mortgages and large families? And how do I describe fibromyalgia as more than being “tired?”

And as popular culture focuses again on the mindset behind suicidal ideations, many suicide survivors would admit that their thoughts cannot be trusted with loved ones. You can have the greatest family in the world but suicide is not a topic you can bring up comfortably without people shoving questions and doctors down your throat. So if you feel suicidal, where can you feel like you belong?

Luckily, social media is providing groups and websites chock full of resources, hotlines and chats that are opening up discussions about all these sensitive topics.

My wish? In this expansive web of social connectivity, I want people struggling with painful symptoms to find a safe spot where they know they belong, and will be accepted.

And my continued passion with this blog and future projects, is to open up the door for people of color to have these conversations and begin the healing process.

Resources:

Talkspace – Online Therapy

Project UROK: Resource for teens and young adults

Buddy Project: Project that uplifts young people with mental illness and pairs them with supportive friends. They frequently share Twitter threads full of resources (playlists, affirmations, etc).

Affirm podcast:  Podcast for women of color created by a mental health therapist.

To Write Love On Her Arms: Non-profit devoted to finding help for people dealing with suicide, self-harm and depression.

Tessera Collective: Online community and empowerment for girls and women of color.

PsychCentral: Mental health social network overseen by mental health professionals. Fabulous resource for ALL topics related to psychology.

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Trevor Project Crisis Line (LGBTQ): 1-866-488-7386

 

 

25 Affirmations For Resilience

If there is any time when someone needs an uplifting message, it’s when they’re feeling broken down. Depending on your situation, it can be hard to find where we tucked away our resilience.

Resilience is our ability to bounce back from tough situations. It’s our grit, tenacity and ability to navigate our way out of tough times. It doesn’t mean that you don’t feel trauma or sadness. When a person is ready to bounce back or just wants to lift their head out of the clouds, these affirmations can help.

Share these with a friend, family member or colleague who may need some inspiration. Add these to your computer screensaver, phone alarm, business planner, vision board or any other location where the reminder can come in handy!

  1. I have the power to pick myself up again.

  2. I have a history of being a survivor.

  3. I know how to defeat the odds.

  4. I allow doubt to float away from me.

  5. I handle change with ease.

  6. I deserve the life I want.

  7. I have not run out of possibilities.

  8. I can rewrite my story.

  9. I am bent but not broken.

  10. I am unique.

  11. My scars are my armor.

  12. Setbacks can be overcome.

  13. I will keep going.

  14. I know how to call on my healthy supports.

  15. I let go of what weighs me down.

  16. Disruption is just a change of energy. It won’t last forever.

  17. My faith has lifted me up before and I can rely on my faith now.

  18. I believe in my abilities.

  19. I am committed to my purpose.

  20. I love how quickly I can adapt to change.

  21. I am supported by the Universe.

  22. I have wisdom and strength.

  23. It’s okay to not be okay.

  24. Asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness.

  25. I surrender these feelings of overwhelm.

If you’re interested in learning more about resilience I have a 3-part series on increasing resilience you can refer to!

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 1

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 2

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 3

Do you use affirmations when you’re going through tough times? 

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