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Turning Fear Into A Strength

When I think about fear I imagine impending doom, my life being at risk or being completely alone to fend for myself. As I read through conversations about careers and life in general, I see many people hesitating out of fear.

To quote Leslie Chow in The Hangover 2, “But did you die?”

Not to sound like a jerk or to discredit your feelings, but how are your fears comparable to death? Is asking for a raise going to cause you bodily harm? Will making a career change be risking your life?


The answer is NO.

Let’s change the language of fear.

Are your fears really about accepting a challenge? Making a change in your life?

If you associate a strong word like fear with making necessary changes in your life, no wonder you’re afraid of change!

Try this: Stop saying you’re afraid. Say that you’re curious about how these changes will work. Curious invokes a lighter feeling than “scared.” Think of what you would tell your kids if they used the word “fear.” Tell yourself the same thing!

This trick is called cognitive defusion.

It helps you distance yourself from damaging thoughts.

Please distance yourself from fears. Fears keep you from growth and without growth what are we?? Click To Tweet


What word will you substitute for “fear?”




7 Quotes To Ease Insecurities

Insecurities don’t discriminate. Not on age, gender, weight, sexual identity, race, religion- you get the point. There are successful go-getters that are waking up with a knot in their gut right now. Teenagers whose daily decisions are based around what outfit will help hide insecurities. Moms and Dads are questioning if they are making the right decisions for their children. College students who have been awake all night fighting their insecurities just to get their paper turned in.

This post is for all of you. Here is a round-up of some quotes to help you get through this day, and to hopefully set some fears at ease. I’m new at this too. I’m not a pro but every time I hit the “publish” button I have defeated fear.






I had to add a motivational one in the end! 

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Please comment below if any of these quotes helped you. Your feedback helps me help you!

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