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Need Help Building Your Child’s Confidence?

Back to school season can invite a bundle of nerves for our children. Even if your little one is excited about returning to school, they are not immune to dips in self-esteem.

This blog always focuses on self-care and motivational messages for adults. How about turning our attention to our younger generation??

I sought out guidance from parents and they helped me with this list of motivational gems!

  1. Teach your child to power pose!



2. Affirmations:

I’m a great reader.

I can be anything I want.

I am good enough.

I am magic.

I come from a bloodline of strong and powerful women.

I am brave.

I am proud of myself. 

Today I am ____________.

I know how to solve problems.

3. One mom taught her child to avoid the word “can’t” and to stop saying sorry for no reason. She charged her daughter $0.10 per slip-up. It can be hard for adults to avoid the word “sorry” so this is a smart lesson for a child!

4. “However hard you practice is how well you will perform.”

5. “Everyone has to try hard. Do you think you are the only one struggling with this?”

6. “Are you happy with the effort you are giving in __________?” This could invite a conversation with your child about work ethic.

7. Reminding children about their strengths:  “You are so talented, smart, strong, athletic, great team player, artistic, you never give up, resilient, etc.”



If you need further motivation or some “power words” to share in their lunchbox, this post will help!

Wishing you and your little ones a successful school year!! 

Are there special messages you share with your kids when they’re feeling doubtful??

Why I Wouldn’t Bring My Child To Work: Therapist Chronicles


This Thursday is National Bring Your Child To Work Day. If I had a child, I’m not sure I would bring them to the office, but that’s due to the nature of my work. Let me explain a little further about what I do.


As an addictions/mental health therapist there is a level of confidentiality AND professionalism needed in this line of work. Not to mention, safety concerns as well. Many therapists don’t even place pictures of their children or family in their office. Some clients can become distracted by seeing the therapist’s life and try to deflect attention away from their problems. Some therapists may even do this as a safety precaution so their children’s or spouse’s faces are not recognizable. Personally I don’t place family pictures in my office either because they are a big distraction.


My current office setting is pretty relaxed and functions for mostly outpatient therapy, as well as other services for our clients (advocacy, case management). Outpatient therapy consists of 50 minute individual sessions with an assigned therapist.


Here is a brief rundown of what a typical day looks like for myself:


  • Check the calendar to see what clients are scheduled for the day. I usually do this the night before or in the morning before work. Having a session immediately after arriving at work requires a little more preparation (and maybe coffee)
  • Clients are usually scheduled on the hour and each session is 50 minutes long. If clients are scheduled back to back I have a 10 minute window to return calls/check voicemails/consult with clinical director, if necessary.
  • Therapy sessions are not just “talk” therapy. Sometimes I use worksheets to educate the client on certain topics or I use a wipe board to help them visually map out what they are learning. Clients may bring in their journal assignments and we process what they have been writing. Or I may ask them to list stressors, recent successes, what they are grateful for or what they have been avoiding. Mind you, this is a condensed description of therapeutic techniques!
  • If there is an hour break between clients I am able to return calls, hopefully process last hour’s session, complete a case note for that client (which only takes about 15 minutes), file the note and prepare for the next client.
  • If a client no-shows or cancels I may have to email or fax a note to their caseworker, if they are mandated by the court or state to attend treatment. Another case note will need to be completed for no-shows/cancellations as well.
  • If I am dealing with a client with specific concerns (returning PTSD symptoms, new mental health diagnosis, new psychotropic medication, retraumatization, etc) I will need to find time to research resources, new treatment modalities and/or consult with other therapists.




This doesn’t seem like too much fun for a child!!

And all of this takes place before I start blogging for the day!! Whew! 

Are there reasons you wouldn’t take your child to work? What does your child/family need to know about your daily routine?




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