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3 Resources You Need To Battle Self-Doubt

After a rough week with my inner critic, I had to switch up my routine in order to get back on my feet.

Between a fibromyalgia flare and creative obstacles, I realized that I didn’t have a strong enough emergency kit for moments of self-doubt.

Depression, career obstacles or emotional blocks can really sidetrack your plans. When you have a busy schedule and daily career responsibilities, every day counts. Every day is lost money or productivity. Missing a week of work can make it seem like you’ve been absent a month.

Here are 3 resources I recommend when self-doubt becomes a burden:

Pinterest: Yes, Pinterest is still a thing. Here’s some search ideas to help you find solutions.

Low energy?– Look up juice recipes (adding ginger to smoothies is a good pick me up), yoga poses, book recommendations, hygenic solutions (scrubbing with Himalayan salt crystals, etc).

Creative blocks?– Research articles on this topic, find crystals that help remove blocks, affirming mantras, and quotes from other creatives who battled the same obstacles.

Does your self-care suck? – Pinterest is a wonderful search engine in regards to health and wellness. I have found numerous articles on self-care here. Plus, sometimes our self-care routines get stale and we need to switch it up!

I also recommend following my Pinterest page where I include boards for career inspiration, self-care, Psychology, wellness and fitness.

Podcasts: Although I’m not a regular listener to podcasts, I knew I needed to try something new to bust out of my funk. Tip: If you’re in a funk, ask yourself what you need. Do you need to read, move, watch something motivational, revisit an old book, dump ideas on paper or talk with a mentor? DO THAT! I couldn’t dig into a book but needed to hear a snack sized solution.

Recommendations:

Jen Carrington’s Make It Happen Podcast: Episode – 5 Reminders For Big Hearted Creatives Who Are Feeling The Business Blues.

Kyshira Moffett’s Podcast: The Bombshell Diaries

Books & Videos:

Peaks and Valleys by Spencer Johnson, M.D. – A quick story about a young man who seeks guidance from a wise man about the highs and lows of life.

Rising Strong by Brene Brown – This story is literally about picking yourself up when you fall flat on your face.

Finding Inner Courage by Mark Nepo – A cancer survivor and brilliant poet compiled short stories to bring peace and courage. This book talks TO you, not AT you.

Marie Forleo TV – Marie’s inspirational videos are not just for entrepeneurs. I subscribe to her weekly emails just for her insightful videos. She has interesting interviews with psychologists, authors, spiritual gurus, holistic doctors and successful entrepeneurs, to name a few.

 

 

 

Part 2: Coping Skills For Family Stress & Burnout

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Last week’s post highlighted 3 coping skills (Taking Care Of Your Body, Setting Boundaries and Getting Organized)  that can assist you if you’re struggling with family stress or burnout (or both)!

These next 3 coping skills dig a little deeper.

Create A Buffer – If you’re feeling burnout from work, put something in between you and the source of stress. What do your lunch breaks look like? Are you eating at your desk? BAD! Change that please. Labor laws entitle us to these fabulous time buffers. Use it or lose it!

I have been lucky in my previous jobs that my bosses were understanding of my workload. I was able to safely express to them when I needed a break, a person to relieve me for one day or needed a day just to focus on paperwork. Sometimes those “paperwork only” days were the solution to my stress.

If you need a buffer from a stressful family situation, pinpoint who you can safely talk to. Text or call that person and let them know you’ll need them to listen, let you scream or just be there in general. It’s hard to turn down a close confidant who asks you, “Hey can I just vent for a second?” Buffers are also boundaries.

Maybe you need to skip a certain family event or gathering for the sake of your sanity. But if you’re unable to skip an event, have a buffer person handy so you can text them in case of emergency!

If you are only attending functions to please others then you are choosing resentment. Click To Tweet

Soothing Talk – Write down what you would say to a loved one in a similar situation. It’s funny how 99% of the time we don’t take our own advice. Have you ever helped someone in a similar situation? What did you tell them? Listen to yourself!

If your self-talk is becoming harsh or over critical, speak to yourself like you would talk to a child. No curse words. Just reassurance.

Refer to my post on self-talk for mental wellness.

Notice The Source – Before you get sucked into criticism or advice, notice who’s telling it to you. In the Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz talks about judgment like its poison. If a person is cruel to you, they spread emotional poison. When we react or plot revenge then we are using their poison within us. It’s similar to “stooping down to their level.”

Also, as you notice the source of criticism, think about that person’s story.

Is there a loss of love in their life?

Has struggle been a mainstay for them?

Are they under immense stress and are lacking in self-care? Although it may be hard to get these answers, remember this: Hurt people hurt people. Click To Tweet

Someone who is hurting from shame, abandonment, insecurities, or whatever, may feel more comfortable passing off that hurt to someone else. Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “misuse of our word.” He says that when you hear a bad opinion and you believe it, you make an agreement with it.

Within these last two posts I have highlighted 6 coping skills to help with burnout or family stress. Changing our thinking patterns, focusing on our needs and actively speaking up for our needs can help minimize these issues.

Be pro-active and get comfortable with these coping skills before you are forced into reactive mode!!

Which coping skills have worked for you in the past? How have you survived burnout? 

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