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25 Affirmations For Resilience

If there is any time when someone needs an uplifting message, it’s when they’re feeling broken down. Depending on your situation, it can be hard to find where we tucked away our resilience.

Resilience is our ability to bounce back from tough situations. It’s our grit, tenacity and ability to navigate our way out of tough times. It doesn’t mean that you don’t feel trauma or sadness. When a person is ready to bounce back or just wants to lift their head out of the clouds, these affirmations can help.

Share these with a friend, family member or colleague who may need some inspiration. Add these to your computer screensaver, phone alarm, business planner, vision board or any other location where the reminder can come in handy!

  1. I have the power to pick myself up again.

  2. I have a history of being a survivor.

  3. I know how to defeat the odds.

  4. I allow doubt to float away from me.

  5. I handle change with ease.

  6. I deserve the life I want.

  7. I have not run out of possibilities.

  8. I can rewrite my story.

  9. I am bent but not broken.

  10. I am unique.

  11. My scars are my armor.

  12. Setbacks can be overcome.

  13. I will keep going.

  14. I know how to call on my healthy supports.

  15. I let go of what weighs me down.

  16. Disruption is just a change of energy. It won’t last forever.

  17. My faith has lifted me up before and I can rely on my faith now.

  18. I believe in my abilities.

  19. I am committed to my purpose.

  20. I love how quickly I can adapt to change.

  21. I am supported by the Universe.

  22. I have wisdom and strength.

  23. It’s okay to not be okay.

  24. Asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness.

  25. I surrender these feelings of overwhelm.

If you’re interested in learning more about resilience I have a 3-part series on increasing resilience you can refer to!

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 1

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 2

How To Increase Your Resilience – Part 3

Do you use affirmations when you’re going through tough times? 

Perfectionism: Why It Isn’t Your Friend

A popular cop-out I have heard in personal and professional circles is the idea that “perfectionism” is healthy.

“What’s wrong with having high standards?  Isn’t perfectionism a better work ethic than laziness?”

I truly believe that perfectionism is the WORST form of self-abuse. In my history of working with addicts I understand that there is a “feeling” most substance users are trying to achieve. They want to numb out, have more energy, forget everything, be social or feel sexier, to name a few.

For perfectionists there is no high. There is no end result. IT IS A NEVER ENDING CHASE. A goal may be reached (entry into college, perfect grades, completion of a project) but a true perfectionist still won’t feel “worthy” after accomplishing goals. Just like a codependent person needs someone to fix, the perfectionist needs to feed their self-worth.

With this constant chase comes brutal self-punishment. Other dirty little words like “should”, “failure” and “ought to” keep our inner critic busy.

Rule #1: Don’t SHOULD on yourself.

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When our personal demands (powered by brutal self-punishment), affect our self-worth, problems arise. Low self-esteem leads to……wait, I don’t have enough time to discuss what that leads to. You get the picture.

In my personal and professional life, I discourage the use of the word “perfect.” It’s unattainable. “Perfect” sets up unrealistic expectations. And we all know what happens when expectations are set too high. DISAPPOINTMENT!

So what are some solutions?

  • Take the word “perfect” out of your vocabulary. Now.  Thank You.
  • Think of what “perfect” used to mean to you. I understand that some projects for work and home need to be up to a certain standard. Are these projects now considered “up to your standards?” Could you say “I’m pleased with my work? I’m proud of how this project came out.” Isn’t that a more “loving” statement than “My work was perfect.”
  • Think of where you use this word? Do you use this with your spouse/partner? If so, please stop. Remember what I wrote earlier. Perfect is unattainable. It’s unfair to place that standard on someone as important as a spouse/partner. What is “perfect?” Someone who doesn’t cheat on you? State that as a boundary. (What are boundaries? I have a post for that too!)
  • Do you use this word with your children?  What type of pressure are you placing on them by asking them to do things perfectly? Is it more realistic to encourage them to “do their best?”  Most adults suffer with perfectionism due to demands placed on them as children. Click To Tweet

In summary, less pressure can be placed on us and people around us if we set reasonable expectations for behavior. Choose more loving expectations and prepare to receive more loving results!

 

 

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