Do you remember a holiday where you were burnt out, funds were depleted, you did everything last minute and you swore you wouldn’t do this again next year?
Sorry to remind you of that tragic memory but why repeat these mistakes?
All year I talk about self-care but this is especially important during the holidays. Many reasons why you are burnt out or resentful by December 26th is because you said YES to too many things and neglected your needs.
How do I take care of myself during the holidays?
- Set Boundaries Please!!!!
JUST. SAY. NO. Traditions may need to change this year and THAT’S OK! Instead of hosting Thanksgiving AND Christmas/Hannukah only choose one (or none)! Scale down the celebration or suggest a potluck. If a family member is pissed that they have to bring a dish then obviously they have been taking advantage of your kindness all these years. It sounds mean but you have to start somewhere! You can’t do everything!
2. Set Boundaries With Your Schedule
Don’t sign up for extra parties or responsibilities if you can’t afford it or you are stretched for time. Are any of these people going to cover your late bills next month? Be realistic. Set aside one day or afternoon for relaxation, a massage or just lounging. If you are able to take a day off of work do it! Many people have vacation days they have to use before year-end! If you work from home look for some wiggle room in your schedule that you can set aside for yourself or your family. Stick to those plans, tell someone to hold you accountable and highlight it BRIGHTLY in your calendar!
3. Ask Yourself “What Do I Want To Do?”
What would be comforting or relaxing for you?
Do you want a hot cocoa and pajama party with your kids? DO IT!
Do you want a Christmas brunch with your friends? PLAN IT! DO IT!
Let go of one responsibility so you can actually enjoy yourself! Are you stuck cooking/baking/cleaning for every get-together? Scale back and be the one who just brings wine to one of your events. It’s ok to ask for a break! The world won’t end if you bring store-bought baked goods to a work party! Give business to a local bakery and give your kitchen (and back) a break!
Choose new traditions that are relaxing, outdoorsy or whatever suits your needs.
For example, living in Las Vegas can be exciting during the holidays. On Christmas Day we exchange traditional Christmas dinner for a trip to the Bellagio to see the Winter Display. No more food! No more clean-up! We get out and move!
Plan a holiday you will look forward to!
Next week I will provide a self-care gift list so you can treat yourself this year!!