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No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence- Book Review

This writer received this book in exchange for this review. All opinions are my own. 


“The more we tell our story, the more it loses its power.” Click To Tweet

I have been working with domestic abuse survivors for 4 years. There is power in their story. The quote mentioned above is a message I have shared with survivors when they begin trauma treatment.

I recently reviewed the book entitled “No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence.” This story is told from the viewpoint of six domestic abuse survivors who used narrative storytelling to heal from their trauma. Thanks to their group and support system at The Second Step in Newton, Massachusetts, Allison, Becca, Cecilia, Donna-Marie, Olive and Selma received counseling, but also built a sisterhood within themselves. “They encouraged each other, they challenged each other, they’ve encouraged each other to be true to themselves, and in so doing they have discovered the profound healing power of connection.”


What makes this book unique?

  1. This book doesn’t just focus on red flags and traumatic stories. Part I did include chapters that told graphic stories of each woman’s background and experiences. But Part II and III shared solutions, the lessons they learned about safety, self-worth, lessons they learned from each other and parenting, to name a few.
  2. I appreciated the personal quotes that were woven between the chapters. And these are not clichés from professionals. These messages are from their voice and reflect how far they’ve truly come.
  3. I appreciate the informational blocks within each chapter that describe the dynamics of domestic violence, red flag behavior and boundary setting. For someone who is just learning about working with this population, these blocks of info help solidify the seriousness of intimate partner violence.

Who is this book for?

Social workers, nurses, medical professionals, domestic violence advocates, law enforcement personnel, probation officers, parents of teens, adult survivors of childhood abuse, graduate students who are entering the mental health field, addiction therapists, psychology students, legal advocates or paralegals, school personnel and university staff.


This story made me feel like I was within their support circle. I felt like I could hear the pain and fear in their voices as they recounted their personal experiences.

As a therapist for survivors, I recommend this book especially for support staff. Having an empathetic ear and understanding of their experience is important. Trauma informed care is becoming a standard for any helping professional and this book weaves in education AND intimate experiences.

If you would like to learn more about Second Step’s program, please find them here.

If you would like to pick up this book for yourself or someone you know, please click below!

No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence

College IS Possible Thanks To The Haz La U Scholarship Fund!


In honor of Hispanic Heritage Month, Colgate has partnered with the Hispanic Heritage Foundation to provide graduating high school seniors with an opportunity to win educational grants. The Haz La U (Make The University) scholarship is given to 31 Hispanic students every year to help them on their path to higher education. For eight years this scholarship has recognized Hispanic students for their leadership, community service experience and academic excellence.

One of the scholarship recipients, who is featured in the video below, spoke to me about how this scholarship has positively impacted her life and her future.

Jennifer Muñoz  is a current student at Chaffey College and learned about this scholarship as a high school senior through the AVID program. Jennifer admits that she didn’t think she could pay for college but had a desire to help her community in the future. She states that learning about scholarships and grants helped her believe that “it’s possible to attend school now!” She mentioned that there’s a “freedom” in attending college and realizing all her possibilities for the future.

One of the requirements for the scholarship is to describe your community service experience. Jennifer says that her experience in high school helped shape her educational goals for college. She enjoyed working with children in afterschool programs and now wants to continue helping her community once she finishes her degree. Actually, Jennifer now has expanded her desire for higher education and wants to obtain her Ph.D.! Thanks to the Haz La U scholarship her confidence in continuing college has grown and as she states, “I feel more in control of my future now.”

The deadline for applications is on October 15th. Please share with an aspiring student so they can also take control of their future!

Learn more about this scholarship here and see Jennifer’s story below:


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