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Refocus Using Inspirational Fashion From La Clé

This writer received complimentary products in exchange for this review. All opinions are 100% my own.

I admit that it can be hard to stay motivated or inspired at times, especially as a blogger and creative person.

As I mentioned on Facebook Live a few weeks ago, we have to “sprinkle” self-care into our daily routines. Our souls may not get replenished in one shot. Whether we deal with low self-esteem, mental health struggles or stepping out of our comfort zone, we need daily doses of healthy energy & motivation.

As I flipped through Instagram for inspiration I stumbled upon a company who is totally in sync with my philosophy: how can we keep positivity in our periphery?

La Clé creates action based accessories and apparel that give you the opportunity to Look Good, Feel Good and Do Good. I spoke with the brand founder, Deanna, and was excited to learn more about their products. La Clé (which means “the key” in French) is based in Vienna, VA and started in 2014. She states that the brand’s goal is to encourage people to make positivity and generosity part of their “daily growth strategy.”

What easier way to implement your daily growth strategy than to wear it!


Naturally I was drawn to their Refocus Bands, which was one of the products designed by Deanna. She created fashionable and durable bracelets so people could not only wear them, but also to inspire healthy interactions with others. When she played soccer in college she wrote motivational messages on rubber bands for her teammates. She hopes these Refocus Bands will be the reminder people need to keep their mind and thoughts positive. Focusing on the good things in life is part of the brand’s mission.

Deanna states that we have to take control of what we think. Whether I am writing about healthy self-talk or building confidence, I have also encouraged you to take back control. Controlling what we think, controlling who we allow in our lives and controlling what makes us happy. One of the bracelets I keep reaching for is the Rewire band. The message states, “Change is only a choice away.” When we consciously make positive changes in our life, we make a good choice. Good choices usually lead to good results. Healthy self-talk and a positive attitude actively rewires our brain.

The Refocus Bands can be flipped over to display colorful designs or your favorite inspirational messages. Some of the messages include:

“I am the storm” – Reassure Band

“It doesn’t matter what they think.” – Realize Band

“You’re effin’ brilliant.” – Remarkable Band

“If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.” – Rethink Band

“Disconnect to reconnect.” – Reboot Band


The Refocus Bands also come in mini sizes and would make a perfect gift for any young person in your life who needs a little boost!

I encourage you to look into the La Clé website and SUPER inspiring Instagram page to choose an inspirational product for yourself or a friend, colleague, family member or mentee. Let someone special know that you are thinking of them and cheering them on!

Which Refocus band would you wear??

No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence- Book Review

This writer received this book in exchange for this review. All opinions are my own. 


“The more we tell our story, the more it loses its power.” Click To Tweet

I have been working with domestic abuse survivors for 4 years. There is power in their story. The quote mentioned above is a message I have shared with survivors when they begin trauma treatment.

I recently reviewed the book entitled “No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence.” This story is told from the viewpoint of six domestic abuse survivors who used narrative storytelling to heal from their trauma. Thanks to their group and support system at The Second Step in Newton, Massachusetts, Allison, Becca, Cecilia, Donna-Marie, Olive and Selma received counseling, but also built a sisterhood within themselves. “They encouraged each other, they challenged each other, they’ve encouraged each other to be true to themselves, and in so doing they have discovered the profound healing power of connection.”


What makes this book unique?

  1. This book doesn’t just focus on red flags and traumatic stories. Part I did include chapters that told graphic stories of each woman’s background and experiences. But Part II and III shared solutions, the lessons they learned about safety, self-worth, lessons they learned from each other and parenting, to name a few.
  2. I appreciated the personal quotes that were woven between the chapters. And these are not clichés from professionals. These messages are from their voice and reflect how far they’ve truly come.
  3. I appreciate the informational blocks within each chapter that describe the dynamics of domestic violence, red flag behavior and boundary setting. For someone who is just learning about working with this population, these blocks of info help solidify the seriousness of intimate partner violence.

Who is this book for?

Social workers, nurses, medical professionals, domestic violence advocates, law enforcement personnel, probation officers, parents of teens, adult survivors of childhood abuse, graduate students who are entering the mental health field, addiction therapists, psychology students, legal advocates or paralegals, school personnel and university staff.


This story made me feel like I was within their support circle. I felt like I could hear the pain and fear in their voices as they recounted their personal experiences.

As a therapist for survivors, I recommend this book especially for support staff. Having an empathetic ear and understanding of their experience is important. Trauma informed care is becoming a standard for any helping professional and this book weaves in education AND intimate experiences.

If you would like to learn more about Second Step’s program, please find them here.

If you would like to pick up this book for yourself or someone you know, please click below!

No More Secrets: Healing From Domestic Violence

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