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15 Petty Affirmations To Uplift Your Soul

Is anyone a fan of petty Tweets or Instagram posts like me?

Sometimes my crazy sense of humor can lighten my mood or distract me from the heaviness of life.

I recently saw a trend on Twitter where people respond to silly statements by saying, “First of all….” In all seriousness, did you know that you can twist petty statements into self-affirming mantras?

It’s easy to have a snappy comeback or to insult ourselves in our head, but why aren’t positive affirmations just as easy?

I compiled a list of petty and non-traditional affirmations to add to your journal, share with your fellow petty friends and to remind yourself that despite our flaws, we’re all worthy deep down inside.

  1. Even though I should be arrested for these messy ass eyebrows, I am worthy of love and attention.
  2. Even though my anxiety keeps me from having fun with my friends, I forgive myself for listening to my needs first.
  3. Although I feel ashamed that I don’t fit into my clothes like I used to, I accept myself as being more than a dress size or pant size.
  4. In spite of the fact that I feel stupid bringing up small talk with strangers, I know I deserve to be where I am today and am proud of myself for going outside of my comfort zone.
  5. Even though I hate feeling lonely, I acknowledge my poor boundaries and maintain a healthy circle of supporters.
  6. Even though my house is a hot mess, I forgive myself for getting off track and am grateful for the comfort of a messy home.
  7. I accept the range of emotions that brew inside me and channel them in healthy ways.
  8. Despite the fact that I am financially irresponsible, I completely forgive myself for the false expectations that I place on money.
  9. In spite of the fact that I didn’t meet my goals, I admit my faults and understand that loving myself is more motivating than shaming myself into isolation.
  10. I notice that I complain too much on social media but today I choose to be hopeful and optimistic. Click To Tweet
  11. I admit that I need to stop shaming others online and change my conversation to more life-affirming and uplifting commentary.
  12. Even though my racing thoughts are terrifying and unsettling, I embrace the peace that sleep brings me every night.
  13. I admit that I act too extra and remind myself that quiet confidence is sexy too.
  14. Despite the fact that I procrastinate, I forgive myself for hiding from the world how badass my dreams are.
  15. It may seem like I’m settling for this life but I believe in my ability to unlock this procrastination and set myself free.

If you are familiar with  the therapeutic technique called Tapping (or EFT),  critical self-talk can be challenged using  the Tapping method. When people verbalize what their inner critic is saying, it sounds kinda crazy! Trust me, I’ve used tapping to deconstruct ugly messages in my head and it’s helped!

Acceptance theory also teaches clients with social anxieties to break down the power behind self-talk. I have worked with clients who healed from social anxiety and later realized how irrational their previous fears were.

Whether you use these petty statements out loud or keep them to yourself, remember that staying hopeful, optimistic and having a sense of humor can only help you in the long run!

2017 Needs New Coping Skills

2017 has really screwed with my ____________ (Fill in the blank).

Personally, this year has been hell on my productivity. For many of my friends there have been family struggles, health setbacks, career changes, you name it. I can absolutely attribute my troubles to the political climate.

As an empath, social media lurker and blogger, it’s impossible to stay away from the news. Sharing my content and connecting with my networks requires a heavy social media presence. Unfortunately, the consistent barrage of bad news is wreaking hell on my soul.

I honestly feel useless and unsure of how to help. I share information about food drives, donation efforts and whatever information is helpful and not “gossip.”

If you’re feeling exhausted like me this year, let’s create a new stack of coping skills.

Here is what I’ll be doing to cope in the next few months:

Preparation: For many people, being prepared can give you a sense of control. Prepared doesn’t always mean being organized and I am a classic example of this. My husband can vouch for this! Regaining a small sense of control in our lives is important when things are feeling out of control. Click To Tweet I have felt this lately, especially because of my earthquake trauma. When I feel edgy or unsettled, cleaning or organizing important papers helps me channel my energy effectively. Although there are many events in our lives we can’t prepare for, it can’t hurt us to have family emergency plans or first aid kits in the car. Our household has been clearing out clutter and donating them to hurricane efforts as well as stocking up on canned goods. Preparation and donating to others can increase your sense of purpose and eliminate clutter.

Movement: I have found it easier to unplug from negativity and bad news if I am outdoors or just moving. Sitting and binging on Netflix makes it too easy to pick up my phone, which goes against self-care and healthy coping. I am committing to more dog walks, bike rides after dinner, gym classes and weekend outdoor activities. The change of season is a perfect time to get fresh air, increase circulation to my organs and release funky energy that is undigested in my system. I recently watched a webinar that discussed the concept of “emotional digestion.” When our emotions get stuck or clogged, they become toxic in our system. It’s similar to food digestion. If we never expel what we consume, it stagnates and toxifies our system.

Challenge: How can you expel toxic emotions that haven’t been digested? How could movement help?

Asking For Help: We don’t have to suffer alone. Regardless of what we’re struggling with, how can we reach out safely to others? If all of our problems could be solved by asking friends and family, there would be no need for therapists. Think about it……Sometimes we have to share our frustrations or thoughts outside of our circles. If you’re having employment difficulties, wouldn’t you want to chat with someone who understands what you’re going through? Wouldn’t you lean towards articles or groups focused on this? I’ll be getting creative with my own battle plan and reaching out to my networks for clarity. I’m also venturing out with another therapy internship so I’ve been looking outside of my comfort zone for assistance. I recommend Facebook groups, local support groups and spiritual groups to be an added link of support. There are numerous Facebook groups for the recently divorced, infertility, career, health-related issues, grief, etc.

Remember, a closed mouth doesn’t get fed!

Most importantly, we have to remind ourselves that no matter what is hurting our soul, we matter. We matter to someone. We have a purpose and our purpose doesn't change based on a bad season of our life. Click To Tweet Our ancestors have struggled with 10 times more than us, yet they made it through with less resources. Don’t feel bad if you don’t know how to cope. We’re all learning as we go!!

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