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Is Your Life In Line With Your Values?

This post deserves to be brought back to the surface in light of thoughts that are weighing heavy on my mind.

Where is our attention going? Why are people unaware of what they’re voting for? Why has the world come to a point of “Enough is Enough?” Let’s take another look at this post about values and see where you stand!

Do you feel that life has become chaotic?

Are you out of focus and forgetting to do too many things?

As you know, this blog’s purpose is to help you bring more focus back on yourself and your priorities.

Here are some tips that you can continually use to help keep your life in check. I suggest doing this once a month or every 3 months, depending on your needs.


List your top 4 values:

(for instance, the things that are most important in your life. This doesn’t mean honesty, integrity, etc. These are more tangible.)






Do you have your list?

Now look at your daily and weekly schedule.

Does your list of values reflect how you spend your time?

This may be troubling to look at. This list may cause you to feel angry at yourself. Please don’t beat yourself up. I have been to social worker conferences where they ask US this question and the crowd goes silent.

We are all guilty of getting distracted or consumed by unnecessary things. Click To Tweet

– Did you mention “family” but you haven’t called or visited a certain family member in weeks or months? Do you miss out on holidays with your family but you spend money and vacation time on other events?

– Did you identify spirituality or your Higher Power as a value but you haven’t participated in any spiritual practice in months?

– Do all the kids’ activities consume too much family time? Is there an activity that can be deleted or toned down? Is there room for adjustments? When was the last time you asked your kids (depending on their age) if they truly enjoy these activities? Parents can fall into auto-pilot and may not realize that their kids are burnt out too.


What type of adjustments will you make this week?









8 Summer Self-Care Activities You Haven’t Considered

Welcome to the 1st week of summer! Don’t let it go to waste by sticking to the same ol’ routine! Consider this list of self-care activities before winter returns!

  1. Enjoy an animated movie! Finding Dory was released last week and me and my mom can’t wait to see it. Plus, the theater will keep you nice and cool!
  2. Take your coloring and painting projects outdoors! Invite younger family members who are on summer break and join them in some creative painting or coloring! Speaking of Finding Dory, I am including a link to free Finding Dory coloring pages from Mommy Mafia’s website!
  3. DIY projects: What kind of projects am I talking about? Sewing a summer dress, beading jewelry for yourself or as a gift, home décor, knitting or crocheting, office décor, flower arranging, making your own foot scrub or bath soak, etc. Tip: Walk around your local hobby store and see what jumps out at you or visit my Pinterest page for my Project-ish Board! 
  4. Find a local pool and cool off. Jump in for a few laps, bring a magazine and lounge or get some much needed Vitamin D. Maybe a nearby hotel has a local deal!!
  5. Take your workout outdoors. Find a local trail and split up your run into lunges and quick sprints. Use a bench for tricep dips, use bleachers for stair climbing or do a night bike ride with friends or the kids.
  6. Find a nearby location that you have never visited and act like a tourist. Changing our environment helps us get out of our head. This is why many (like myself) find travelling rejuvenating. After my puppy passed away, me, my mom and my husband needed to get out of the house. We went to a nearby city, ate lunch and explored antique shops. It helped distract us, took us away from the emptiness at home and tired us out.
  7. Arrange a date with a friend for pampering. If money is tight, venture to the drugstore together and pick up face masks, manicure tools and bright nail polishes. Add some snacks, beverages and music and you have a spa party!
  8. Find local events that require you to be outside (weather permitting). For example, farmers markets, outdoor concerts, outdoor theater performances, pool parties, patio brunches, dinner cruises, art festivals, pet festivals, charity events or marathons. Fresh air distracts us from our destructive thoughts! Tip: Follow your cities events page on Facebook!

The summer season can be a time of growth, renewal and a time to drop fears and routines. Winter weather places limitations on taking our self-care outdoors. Take advantage of the longer days and sunshine- You Deserve It!

 Challenge: Pick a new summer self-care activity and post a picture on Facebook or Instagram. Tag me using the hashtag #thefocusonyou! 


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